STAND FOR THE FAMILY
By Alan on Nov 13 in Blog tagged abort, Alan Osmond, army, before marriage, believe, Birth, breakdown of the family, cheat, courteous, deaf, died, discouraged, divorce, Donny and Marie, educators, faith, fall for anything, families, Family History, Father, fight, for the family, freedom protected, gardens, goals, gold records, good old days, grandparents, hit records, holy prayer, homeless, homes, husband, lies, love, manners, marriage, milked cows, music, one heart foundation, opportunities, organization, Osmond Family Theater, Osmond Studios, Osmonds, pornography drug abuse, practiced, pregnant, problems, Proclamation on The Family, regimentation, religious, respect, samaria, self-discipline, sex, sick children, stadium of Fire, stand, steal, sugar beets, sunday, The Family.com, Thomas M. Davis, traditions, trat a woman, trust in God, Vera Ann Nichols Davis, work | Comments Off
STAND FOR THE FAMILY
My Grandfather Thomas M. Davis and grandmother Vera Ann Davis were educators. Grandpa once told me,
“If you don’t stand for something, you’ll fall for anything!”
As a young boy, my Father would tell us about the “Good Old Days” . . . you know, when he was taught respect, manners, being courteous, and the way to treat a woman. He shared how he was brought up with a strong religious faith and that Sundays were holy, and prayer was used throughout the week. His Father died when he was 6 weeks old when he got kicked by a horse. He shared how hard that was and how he had to stand up and fight for what he believed in and for what he wanted. He also taught us that the best way to get ahead in life was . . . to go to work!
Well, guess what I did when I was young? You’re right . . . I worked!
My parents raised eight boys and one girl (that’s Marie) in a small town of Ogden, Utah and we all worked hard. We had fun but, when school was over, so were friends. It was time for family. We milked cows, raised gardens, bailed hay, hauled irrigation pipe and hoed sugar beets, … we always had a school room in our home where Mother would teach us and our two deaf brothers. That’s where we also learned to love music, to play instruments and to sing!
My father had been an army sergeant, and when it came to raising eight sons, some people used to accuse him of having too much “Regimentation!” He would simply smile and say, “I like to call it, Organization!” Yes, we were disciplined but mainly taught self-discipline in order to become better people, better at our music, to achieve our goals and meet our opportunities. I truly think that this is what’s missing today in many families and homes. Self discipline and order!
In today world, we try to fit more into less… and do less, to get more. We keep trying to find shortcuts in time and travel, with fast foods, quick start programs and overnight education. We use treadmills instead of going hiking, we make apps to do things quicker and use caffeine to stay awake longer. We don’t cook, but eat out! Kids go to daycare and in business we cut corners and charge more. We have sex before marriage, if we marry at all! If pregnant we just abort, get divorced if we want a change, and tell lies, then just pay the fine. We cheat and say I don’t remember, steal and say it’s entitlement, give our kids a pat on the back and call it spending time and say “ask your Mom” in order to solve the problems!
Is this how we are living today? Is this how we are raising our families?
Then it’s time to take a STAND!
Suzanne and I aren’t perfect, but especially since we had eight sons of our own and now 24 grandchildren, we created TheFamily.com website and the One Heart Foundation for “Strengthening The Family.” We publish various ways to help The Family Physically, Mentally, Socially, Spiritually, and Financially. We reach out to help sick children, deaf children, homeless families and those in need. We stand up against Pornography and Drug abuse and stand for Marriage. We stand for values, morals, and family traditions, and for the Proclamation on The Family . . . recognizing that we are all children of God.
It seems that most of the problems today are because of:
“The Breakdown of The Family”!
In the Past . . .
Most children lived in a home with both their mother and father, who were married.
Life in the womb was valued and considered sacred.
The rights of parents were Respected.
Religious freedom was Protected and Practiced.
We put our trust in God.
How did we let things slip so far?
Life is based upon eternal laws and truths and if you break them, someone usually gets hurt. As we try to make a change for the better, let us remember that there are some things that cannot be changed. We cannot change the laws of God. That’s where life comes in!
We must also NEVER Get discouraged!
When we were kids, an uncle said to my Father, “Why do you want your boys in show business with all those wicked women?” “I know your boys can sing but, they’re not that good.”
After we were on TV with The Andy Williams Shows we wanted to record music that we and our teen age friends and peers liked, and a record producer told us . . . “You’ll never make it in show business because you are too clean cut! Too “Goody-Goody” But we did! We just let those words go in one ear and out the other.
We also made some CAREER decisions that some thought were a bit odd, but we always tried to keep our family values first and worked hard at staying together.
One day when we were looking for that next hit record, we got a call from our record President saying they found a hit record for us and for us to go and meet the writer at the recording studio. So we did!
There was this really a nice black guy with a song he wrote that was incredible, but . . . there were some lyrics in it that we just couldn’t sing. Our record president said if you don’t record it, we’ll lose a hit record! My mother then said, let me go and talk to him. After she explained that we just couldn’t sing those lyrics, the writer said to my mother, “If my Mama were here today, she would slap my face! Now let’s go and change those lyrics!” He did! We recorded it, … and it was a hit record, “Love Me For A Reason”!
I was an Executive Producer for the Donny & Marie Shows in Los Angeles and when ABC President, Fred Silverman, renewed another year for our weekly TV series, I was the one that had to tell him that we would love to renew but that we wanted to move the TV Series to Utah. Fred said, “What’s in Utah?”
You’re right! We build the Osmond Studios in Orem so we could be with all of our family and do it from home.
We all eventually sold our nice homes and everyone moved to Branson, Missouri. Some people thought we had received a call from the Prophet of our Church to “go to Missouri”. We would smile and jokingly say, “Didn’t you get your letter?”
Yes, we all worked together at our new Osmond Family Theater so we could be together and not have to travel so much. Our audiences would do the traveling to see us!
More hit records and traveling started to come and yes, we were missing our wives and families once again. We said to each other, “Is this where our Gold Records got us? So, we quit performing and went home. We didn’t know what we would do to make a living but we said we would do anything to be home, be good husbands and fathers.
That’s when I created ‘Stadium of Fire’ so I could be with my family and work from home.
So you see, “We must NOT fear the future but deal with it!“
It takes – Self Discipline!
How do we counter act the forces of the world that pulls family apart?
We maintain Family Traditions. Here are a few of ours:
Birthdays are each celebrated with a special birthday plate and a personalized cake. Mother would cook their favorite foods.
For Thanksgiving, we cooked the turkey and our kids each bring a side dish.
Christmas Eve – We have Banana Splits. We read the Christmas Story and the children re-enact it. We open new pajamas & presents from Grandma & Grandpa, then they go to their homes before ‘Santa’ comes!
Waffles w/strawberries precedes General Conference.
Eleven Eleven is Suzanne’s families’ Pinegar Day, and there is no working on Sundays and family nights.
We dedicated the cabin in which our Mother Olive May Davis was born. It’s where her parents lived for years. It became a museum in Samaria/Malad, Idaho. A friend Luke Waldron rebuilt and he and the City of Malad maintain it for scheduled tours.
Family Reunions happen with Pictures, Journals, Family History and a serious group photo plus always one funny one!
“We seek higher things.”
You see, these studies were recently published in New York Times stating that: The ones who know a lot about their families, tend to do better when they face challenges. For example:
Do you know where your grandparents grew up?
Do you know where your mom and dad went to high school?
Do you know where your parents met?
How about an illness or something really terrible that happened in your family and how they overcame it?
Do you know the story of your birth?
(This is the original cabin where my Davis Grandparents lived and where my Mother, Olive May Davis was born in Samaria, Idaho.
It was rebuilt and maintained by Luke Waldron and dedicated as a museum in tribute to Olive by The Osmond and Davis Families, Luke Waldron and friends of Samaria.)
It’s now proven that:
The more children know about their family’s history, the stronger their sense of control they have over their lives.
The higher their self-esteem, the more succcessful their families functioned.
It’s all about a child’s sense of being part of a larger family.
So if we want a happier family, we must create, refine and retell the story of your family’s positive moments and your ability to bounce back from the difficult ones.
That act alone may increase the odds that your family will thrive for many generations to come.
NOW – IS THE TIME to STAND FOR THE FAMILY!
How To Survive In Enemy Territory
By Alan on May 18 in Blog tagged act immorally, adversary, agency, Apostle, Atonement is like an eraser, be clean, Bod K. Packer, cheat, choose, communication with Heavenly Father, enemy territory, entertainment, entitlement, gender, guilt, Holy Ghost, How to survive in enemy territory, in homes, infiltrated the world, influence of God, Jesus Christ, language, lie, pain, parents, pornography, prayer, pre-marital sex, righteousness, same-sex marriage, scriptures daily, self-control, self-dicipline, spirit, steal, tatoos, teasing, temptation, The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints, the media, think a prayer | Comments Off
How To Survive In Enemy Territory
You are growing up in enemy territory. When you become mature spiritually, you will understand how the adversary has infiltrated the world around you. He is in homes, entertainment, the media, language — everything around you. In most cases, his presence is undetected. Pornography is just one example.
There are things that are the most desirable and of the most worth that youth can do to stay strong, even in enemy territory.
For young men and young women the process is the same. Discovering how the Holy Ghost operates in your life is the quest of a lifetime. Once you have made that discovery for yourself, you can live in enemy territory and will not be deceived or destroyed. No one will ever make a serious mistake without first being warned by the promptings of the Holy Ghost.
It is through using the Holy Ghost as a guide and protective influence that individuals are able to do good and stay away from harm.
You can quickly learn to follow the promptings of the Holy Ghost. This power of revelation from the gift of the Holy Ghost operates on principles of righteousness.
The important role of righteousness is in keeping the lines of communication with the Spirit open.
You cannot lie or cheat or steal or act immorally and have those channels remain free from disruption. Do not go where the environment resists spiritual communication. You must learn to seek the power and direction that is available to you, and then follow that course no matter what.
Here is a “to do” list for the youth with things individuals can do in their lives to have the direction of the Spirit.
Most of the time, your prayers will be silent.
“You can think a prayer.”
Parents and teachers are oftentimes concerned about the day that their children or youth are left on their own. It is through understanding that the influence of God is always there, that youth are able to have extra strength in their lives.
Sometimes it is hard for young people to confide in their parents. You can always have a direct line of communication with your Father in Heaven. Do not allow the adversary to convince you that no one is listening on the other end. Your prayers are always heard. You are never alone!
Part of being clean is following the Word of Wisdom (no smoking, tea or coffee, drugs or stimulants) and taking care of one’s own body. It does not promise perfect health but that the spiritual receptors within you might be strengthened. Stay away from tattoos and similar things which deface your body. Do not do that which would dishonor yourself, your parents, or your Father in Heaven. Your body was created in His image.
Unworthy people can be uncomfortable in the presence of someone who is virtuous. You must not be embarrassed by the teasing they might get from others around them because, in the end, many will understand and respect them for their values.
Another important topic is that gender is set in the pre-mortal world.
You always have a choice to follow the promptings of the Holy Ghost and live a morally pure and chaste life, one filled with virtue. If you try to uphold and defend and live in a so-called pre-marital or same-sex marriage situation, God will not stand idle if you indulge in immoral activity. To permit such would be to make light of the very serious and sacred foundation of God-sanctioned marriage and its very purpose, the rearing of families.
Just as Adam and Eve had the ability to choose for themselves, so do individuals today.
You have that same agency. Use it wisely to deny acting on any impure impulse or unholy temptation that may come into your mind. Just do not go there, and if you are already there, come back out of it. ‘Deny yourselves of all ungodliness.’
Do not tamper with the life-giving powers in your body alone or with members of either gender. That is God’s standard, and it will not change. As you mature, there is a temptation to experiment or explore immoral activities. Do not do that!
Are you are doing all in your power to overcome immoral conduct, however difficult that may be?
The key word is discipline — self discipline. The word ‘discipline’ comes from the word ‘disciple’ or follower. Be a disciple/follower of the Savior, and you will be safe.”
If you are guilty of serious mistakes, it is “never too late, as you probably have been taught at home and in church about the Atonement of Jesus Christ.
The Atonement is like an eraser. It can wipe away guilt and the effect of whatever it is that is causing you to feel guilty. Guilt is spiritual pain. Do not suffer from chronic pain. Get rid of it. Be done with it. Repent, and, if necessary, repent again and again and again until you — not the enemy — are in charge of you.
Because life is a succession of trials and errors, it is important for all to repent often.
This will bring you lasting peace that cannot be purchased at any earthly price. Understanding the Atonement may be the one most important truth that you can learn in your youth.
If you are associating with others who drag you down instead of building you up, stop and change company. You may be alone and lonely at times. The important question may be asked then, ‘When you are alone, are you in good company?’ If you are doing something that you know is wrong, stop it. Stop it now.
Unwinding a habit that you have allowed to entangle you can be difficult. But the power is in you. Do not despair.
It is through choosing to repent that individuals are able to receive a testimony and know that the gospel of Jesus Christ is true.
You are not ordinary. You have a very special life. You are exceptional. You were born at a time and in a place where the gospel of Jesus Christ can come into your life through the teachings and activities in your home and the Church.
It is through doing what one knows to be right that individuals will bless their own lives, as well as their posterity.
Do not squander these years of your youth and religious instruction. Learn that which is of most worth. It will bless you and your posterity for many generations.”
We warn the youth about entitlement.
They expect that everything will be freely provided for them. If that pattern is in your thinking, get rid of it. If you want to be happy, you must pay the price through obedience. The restraints that you face against wrongdoing are an enormous protection for you.
Once individuals have self-control in their lives, they will not need to be told what to do all of the time, and will find their way and know where they fit in.
Some of you are floundering about and struggling to find what you will do. It does not really matter what you choose to do for a living. What matters most is what and who you will be. You have the guidelines to know that. Remember, the Spirit is always with you to teach you. Do not fear the future. Do not fear what is ahead. Go forward with hope and faith. Remember that supernal gift of the Holy Ghost. Learn to be taught by it. Learn to seek it. Learn to live by it. Learn to pray always in the name of Jesus Christ. The Spirit of the Lord will attend you, and you will be blessed. We have deep and profound faith in you.
The most important ‘great things’ are the great things that have happened in the lives of millions of students over the years as they have been willing to do some small things. Small things like attending class and studying the scriptures daily and then living the principles of the gospel in their daily lives. As they have done these small things, great things have been brought to pass in their lives.
From a talk by President Boyd K. Packer of the Quorum of the Twelve Apostles of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints as he spoke to the youth of the Church.
“We invest in our youth. We know of your worth and potential. I speak as one who has seen the past and would prepare you for the future.”
By Alan on May 05 in Blog tagged a look, a principle, actions, become like Jesus, belongs to someone else, cheat, cheat employers, comletely honest, copyright, deceive, deed, dishonest, every thought, everyone else does it, excuses, father of lies, gesture, get even, honesty, inferior service, Jesus Christ, justice, lie, more than our share, of salvation, overcome, Satan, scriptures, silence, steal, taking merchandise, temptation, tempted, truth, unfair advantage, without permission, words | Comments Off
Honesty Is a Principle of Salvation
- What would society be like if everyone were perfectly honest?
“We believe in being honest.”
The scriptures tell us about a group of people who were “distinguished for their zeal towards God, and also towards men; for they were perfectly honest and upright in all things; and they were firm in the faith of Christ, even unto the end” (Alma 27:27). Because of their honesty, these people were noted by their fellowmen and by God. It is important to learn what honesty is, how we are tempted to be dishonest, and how we can overcome this temptation.
Complete honesty is necessary for our salvation. “If we accept salvation on the terms it is offered to us, we have got to be honest in every thought, in our reflections, in our meditations, in our private circles, in our deals, in our declarations, and in every act of our lives”. (B Young)
God is honest and just in all things (see Alma 7:20). We too must be honest in all things to become like Him. The brother of Jared testified, “Yea, Lord, I know that thou … art a God of truth, and canst not lie” (Ether 3:12). In contrast, the devil is a liar. In fact, he is the father of lies (see 2 Nephi 9:9). “Those who choose to cheat and lie and deceive and misrepresent become his slaves” (Mark E. Petersen).
Honest people love truth and justice. They are honest in their words and actions. They do not lie, steal, or cheat.
To Lie Is Dishonest
We are going to discuss three forms of dishonesty: lying, stealing, and cheating.
Lying is intentionally deceiving others. Bearing false witness is one form of lying. The Lord gave this commandment to the children of Israel: “Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbour” (Exodus 20:16). Jesus also taught this when He was on earth (see Matthew 19:18). There are many other forms of lying. When we speak untruths, we are guilty of lying. We can also intentionally deceive others by a gesture or a look, by silence, or by telling only part of the truth. Whenever we lead people in any way to believe something that is not true, we are not being honest.
The Lord is not pleased with such dishonesty, and we will have to account for our lies. Satan would have us believe it is all right to lie. He says, “Yea, lie a little; … there is no harm in this” (2 Nephi 28:8). Satan encourages us to justify our lies to ourselves. Honest people will recognize Satan’s temptations and will speak the whole truth, even if it seems to be to their disadvantage.
To Steal Is Dishonest
Jesus taught, “Thou shalt not steal” (Matthew 19:18). Stealing is taking something that does not belong to us. When we take what belongs to someone else or to a store or to the community without permission, we are stealing. Taking merchandise or supplies from an employer is stealing. Copying music, movies, pictures, or written text without the permission of the copyright owners is dishonest and is a form of theft. Accepting more change or goods than one should is dishonest. Taking more than our share of anything is stealing.
To Cheat Is Dishonest
We cheat when we give less than we owe, or when we get something we do not deserve. Some employees cheat their employers by not working their full time; yet they accept full pay. Some employers are not fair to their employees; they pay them less than they should. Satan says, “Take the advantage of one because of his words, dig a pit for thy neighbor” (2 Nephi 28:8). Taking unfair advantage is a form of dishonesty. Providing inferior service or merchandise is cheating.
We Must Not Excuse Our Dishonesty
- What happens to us spiritually when we excuse our dishonesty?
People use many excuses for being dishonest. People lie to protect themselves and to have others think well of them. Some excuse themselves for stealing, thinking they deserve what they took, intend to return it, or need it more than the owner. Some cheat to get better grades in school or because “everyone else does it” or to get even.
These excuses and many more are given as reasons for dishonesty. To the Lord, there are no acceptable reasons. When we excuse ourselves, we cheat ourselves and the Spirit of God ceases to be with us. We become more and more unrighteous.
We Can Be Completely Honest
- What does it mean to be completely honest?
To become completely honest, we must look carefully at our lives. If there are ways in which we are being even the least bit dishonest, we should repent of them immediately.
When we are completely honest, we cannot be corrupted. We are true to every trust, duty, agreement, or covenant, even if it costs us money, friends, or our lives. Then we can face the Lord, ourselves, and others without shame. President Joseph F. Smith counseled, “Let every man’s life be so that his character will bear the closest inspection, and that it may be seen as an open book, so that he will have nothing to shrink from or be ashamed of”.
- In what ways does our honesty or dishonesty affect how we feel about ourselves?
IT Is Greater To Be Trusted Than Loved
By Alan on Apr 28 in Blog tagged cheat, compliment, damaged relationships, Family, follow the crowd, Holy Ghost, honest in every way, hurt ourselves, in the eyes of God, it is greater, lie, lose the guidance, neglect, no longer trust, noble attribute, peace of mind, self-respect, steal, strength of character, ten commandments, than loved, to be trusted, trustworthy, worthy of the highest trust | Comments Off
It is greater to be trusted than loved. To be worthy of the highest trust is a noble attribute & compliment.
Marvin J. Ashton
In giving the Ten Commandments, the Lord declared:
“Thou shalt not steal. Thou shalt not bear false witness.” We believe in being honest. To be honest means to be sincere, truthful, and without deceit at all times.
When we are honest in every way, we are able to enjoy peace of mind and maintain self-respect. We build strength of character, which allows us to be of service to God and others. We are trustworthy in the eyes of God and those around us.
On the other hand, if we are dishonest in our words or actions, we hurt ourselves and often hurt others as well. If we lie, steal, cheat, or neglect to give the full amount of work for our pay, we lose our self-respect. We lose the guidance of the Holy Ghost. We may find that we have damaged relationships with family members and friends and that people no longer trust us.
Being honest often requires courage and sacrifice, especially when others try to persuade us to justify dishonest behavior. If we find ourselves in such a situation, we can remember that the lasting peace that comes from being honest is more valuable than the momentary relief of following the crowd.
You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it.
By Alan on Nov 19 in Blog tagged control, divide, give, lie, money, own, power, split, steal, take away, wealth | Comments Off
You cannot legislate the poor into freedom by legislating the wealthy out of freedom. What one person receives without working for, another person must work for without receiving. The government cannot give to anybody anything that the government does not first take from somebody else. When half of the people get the idea that they do not have to work because the other half is going to take care of them, and when the other half gets the idea that it does no good to work because somebody else is going to get what they work for, that my dear friend, is about the end of any nation. You cannot multiply wealth by dividing it. Adrian Rogers (1931-2005)