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I scurried around the store, gathered up my goodies and headed for the checkout counter, only to be blocked in the narrow aisle by a young man who appeared to be about sixteen-years-old. I wasn’t in a hurry, so I patiently waited for the boy to realize that I was there. This was when he waved his hands excitedly in the air and declared in a loud voice, “Mommy, I’m over here.”
It was obvious now, he was mentally challenged and also startled as he turned and saw me standing so close to him, waiting to squeeze by. His eyes widened and surprise exploded on his face as I said, “Hey Buddy, what’s your name?”
“My name is Denny and I’m shopping with my mother,” he responded proudly.
“Wow,” I said, “that’s a cool name; I wish my name was Denny, but my name is Steve.”
“Steve, like Stevarino?” he asked.
“Yes,” I answered. “How old are you Denny?”
“How old am I now, Mommy?” he asked his mother as she slowly came over from the next aisle.
I acknowledged her and continued to talk to Denny for several more minutes about summer, bicycles and school. I watched his brown eyes dance with excitement, because he was the center of someone’s attention. He then abruptly turned and headed toward the toy section.
Denny’s mom had a puzzled look on her face and thanked me for taking the time to talk with her son. She told me that most people wouldn’t even look at him, much less talk to him.I told her that it was my pleasure and then I said something I have no idea where it came from, other than by the prompting of the Holy Spirit. I told her that there are plenty of red, yellow, and pink roses in God’s Garden; however, “Blue Roses” are very rare and should be appreciated for their beauty and distinctiveness. You see, Denny is a Blue Rose and if someone doesn’t stop and smell that rose with their heart and touch that rose with their kindness, then they’ve missed a blessing from God.
She was silent for a second, then with a tear in her eye she asked, “Who are you?”
Without thinking I said, “Oh, I’m probably just a dandelion, but I sure love living in God’s garden.”
She reached out, squeezed my hand and said, “God bless you!” and then I had tears in my eyes.
May I suggest, the next time you see a BLUE ROSE, don’t turn your head and walk off. Take the time to smile and say Hello. Why? Because, by the grace of GOD, this mother or father could be you. This could be your child, grandchild, niece or nephew. What a difference a moment can mean to that person or their family.
Kind words accomplish miracles, where threats fall on deaf ears.
No one is ever ruled through fear…However it appears.
No matter what the challenge is or choices we must make,
Each one of us must choose the path our feet are meant to take.
How often we have criticized what we don’t understand,
Claimed God’s right to judgement…which was not given man.
Imagined that “we know it all” and in our foolish pride,
Accepted tales as true before…we know the other side.
Help us to keep in good repair this small glass house we own,
And grant our hands be quick to help but never throw a stone.
Grace E. Easley
By Alan on Mar 07 in Blog tagged abusive, attraction, beliefs, casual, dating, differences, end of relationship, Family, friend, happy, interests, kindness, looking, love, marriage, men, navigating, partner, physical abuse, Proclamation To The World, romantic, serious, shy, single, smiling, spouse, talk, uncomfortable, unhealthy dating, violence, women | Comments Off
Enjoy Being Single
Sometimes singles become too focused on their goal of marriage, and they don’t enjoy their years on their own. While marriage is a righteous goal to be sought after, we should take time to enjoy our journey to reach the goal. Our years as a single can be meaningful and happy ones. You may be familiar with the counsel to become the kind of person you want to marry. In this way, you will attract that sort of person to you. Your time as a single can be a time of personal development and enrichment. Some of the most important areas in which to develop include our emotional and mental health, our self esteem, and our ability to control our impulses (Holman, Larson, & Stahmann, 2000). Remember that we do not need to be perfect in order to have a happy life and a strong marriage. If we are aware of these areas and striving to be our best, that is enough. We should remember that we are worthy of love, and that other people are usually accepting and approachable (Holmes & Johnson, 2009). Taking this perspective will help us build healthy friendships and relationships with others in our lives, a valuable skill that is crucial to life beyond just the dating world.
What to Look For
While the idea of a soul mate is a romantic one, there is not one perfect person out there waiting for you to find him or her. Each of us probably has numerous people in the world with whom we would be very happy. None of them will be our perfect match. Some compromise is inherent in all dating. It is important that we remember this; if we focus too much on finding our perfect soul mate, we may be quicker to write off a dating relationship when conflict arises, instead of trying to work things out (Hall, 2006).
Instead of looking for a soul mate, we should look for someone similar to us in background, values, attitudes, and beliefs about marriage. Research has shown that couples who are similar in these areas tend to have higher marital quality and stability (Holman & Larson, 1994). These areas are key to a person’s identity, which means that when a couple differs in these ways, compromise becomes difficult. When you and your partner are similar in these ways, you will be able to understand one another better because you are coming from the same perspective.
With that said, realize that differences are not necessarily a bad thing. No one is exactly like you, so you shouldn’t be looking for your exact clone. There will definitely be some differences between you and your partner. Remember that compatibility is not just about sameness, but also about complementarity. The Proclamation reminds us that some differences between men and women are built into the divine design of marriage and family stewardships.
While you are searching for your mate, remember that no one is perfect. Be careful not to keep a laundry list of required traits that your mate must have. While there are some things you should not compromise on, such as shared values or kindness, you can be more flexible with other things, like whether someone has your exact taste in movies, whether they are a certain build or have a certain hair color, or whether someone is a master chef.
Sometimes the most difficult part of dating is finding someone who you are attracted to and who is attracted to you as well. Attending social events such as dances, parties or singles religious activities can be a way of meeting other singles. How do you catch someone’s attention? Start by being friendly. Eye contact, a big smile and a confident posture (no slouching!) can make you look more approachable (Cunningham & Barbee, 2010).
Don’t be afraid to approach someone you are attracted to. You don’t need a first class opening line to talk to someone. A simple “Hello” is often more effective than a cheesy pick-up line (Cunningham & Barbee, 2010).
How do you tell if someone is interested in you? Some signs you might notice include someone leaning towards you, smiling, making and keeping eye contact, staying near to you, orienting his or her body towards you, and frequent gesturing (Afifi & Lucas, 2010). Often people have a pessimistic outlook when trying to judge another’s interest. That is, Mike may be too scared of rejection to ask Sally for a date, even though he is interested in her. Meanwhile, Sally assumes Mike must not be interested since he is not asking her, never stopping to think that maybe he is afraid. What is the solution for this? Choose not to let your fear hold you back. You may face rejection, but you may also find that your potential date has been anxiously awaiting you to ask her or him out. You won’t know until you try. Ladies, remember, we live in a time where we are allowed to do the asking too.
If you are shy, the process of attracting someone, approaching him or her, and figuring out whether or not there is mutual interest, may sound like a difficult process to go through. Don’t be afraid to ask your friends for help. Set-ups and blind dates are a great way to skip the stress of finding someone and go straight to a date|just be sure you trust the person setting you up. At social events like parties or dances, consider going with a more social friend, who can act as a bridge for you to meet others, by being the one to start conversations with those you meet.
The dating climate of today may be different from the climate our parents and grandparents faced. Some modern researchers have argued that hanging out has replaced dating, making dating obsolete (Colllins & van Dulmen, 2006). However, dating is a valuable way for teens and adults to come to know someone on a more personal level. Dating can also help you develop a better idea of the traits you want in a future spouse (although those with limited opportunity to date can still make a wise mate selection).
Consider dating to build friendships and have fun, instead of focusing just on finding someone to marry. Casual dating allows dates to be laidback and fun, without commitment attached from the get go. Seeking friendship first results in lower pressure in your dating experience. When you are more relaxed, it is easier to be yourself, have fun, and get to know the other person better. Friendship dating may also lower your chance of facing heartbreak and disappointment, since you are not quickly becoming emotionally involved (McLaughlin, 2007). A romantic relationship may evolve from friendship dating, and its base of friendship may be stronger than a relationship built only on mutual attraction (Barelds and Barelds-Dijkstra, 2007).
Although you decide to date casually, you may still encounter pressure from parents, friends, or even your dates to define your relationships early on, instead of keeping things casual. You cannot control the reactions of people around you, but that does not mean you should avoid casual dating. As with other areas in your life, in dating just do the best you can, even if at times it goes against the norms of modern society.
The Decision to Become Serious
So you have been dating for a little while, and you are wondering whether or not to get serious. How can you know when you are really in love? Noller describes the difference between immature love and mature love (as cited in Holman et al, 2000).
Immature love is possessive, easily provoked to jealousy, and anxious that the relationship might end. A person experiencing immature love may be obsessed with his or her partner. Immature love includes a belief that love is something beyond your control; an external force like Cupid’s arrow causes love. Immature love is selfish and focused on satisfying one’s own needs.
In contrast, mature love involves a lasting passion, a strong desire for companionship, and contentment with the relationship. A person experiencing mature love knows it is something you must decide. Mature love means commitment, trust, sharing, and sacrifice. It allows space for a partner to grow and change.
While we should not have unrealistic expectations for our future spouses, we should also be careful not to settle for an unhealthy relationship. Below are signs of emotional, psychological, and physical abuse in a relationship. If your relationship has some of these characteristics, you should seriously consider ending the relationship. You deserve to be with someone who values you and treats you with respect.
Emotional and Psychological Abuse
Saltzman, Fanslow, McMahon, and Shelley (2002) give the following list of behaviors which constitute emotional and psychological abuse:
[H]umiliating the victim, controlling what the victim can and cannot do, withholding information from the victim, deliberately doing something to make the victim feel diminished or embarrassed, isolating the victim from friends and family, and denying the victim access to money or other basic resources (p. 61).
This list is not comprehensive. Your partner may do or say other things that hurt you psychologically or emotionally. The important thing is to notice how the way you are treated makes you feel.
Domestic violence involves “the intentional use of physical force with the potential for causing death, disability, injury, or harm” (Saltzman et al., 2002, p. 35). Any physical force can qualify as domestic violence, but some examples of violent behaviors include:
[S]cratching, pushing, shoving, throwing, grabbing, biting, choking, shaking, poking, hair-pulling,
slapping, punching, hitting, burning, use of a weapon (gun, knife, or other object), and use of
restraints or one’s body, size, or strength against another person (p. 35).
Some potential warning signs that violence can occur later on include extreme jealousy, controlling behavior, or verbal threats (Choose Respect). If you notice these in your relationship, you might be wise to end it now before things escalate into a worse situation.
If you are in an abusive relationship, you should know that many resources exist to help you:
When a Relationship Ends
If you are the one ending the relationship, remember to be gentle and kind when you do so. Holman et al. (2000) recommend bringing up the subject with kindness, meekness, and love. They also recommend being clear that the relationship is ending, so your partner is not confused or left with false hopes.
If your partner initiates the breakup, take care not to try to force him or her to keep dating you (Holman et al., 2000). Be respectful and allow the relationship to end. Breakups hurt, but don’t lash out and take out your hurt on your ex (Holman et al., 2000).
After the breakup, give yourself time to heal. You may find it helpful to vent your feelings to a friend or family member. Journal writing can also be helpful. Young adults often rely on media (like music, movies, and television shows) to help them process and reflect on their breakups (Hebert & Popadiuk, 2008).
While this isn’t necessarily bad, be careful what media you consume|it may prolong your sadness if you fill your days with depressive media.
Immediately after a breakup, you may find it painful to contemplate dating someone else in the future. Or perhaps you feel that you will not meet another potential mate. Give yourself time to heal from the breakup. How much time you need will vary from person to person. But realize that someday, you will meet someone new. This was not your one and only chance for love. An optimistic attitude that you can find someone else will help you move on (Spielmann, MacDonald, & Wilson, 2009).
Dating can seem a daunting task at times, but never give up! Enjoy your time as a single. Enjoy dating, and consider friendship dating to take off some of the pressure. Do what you can to seek dating success, and don’t worry about the rest. Dating can be a fun experience rather than a stressful one, if you choose to make it so.
Written by Shelece McAllister, Research Assistant, and edited by Jason S. Carroll and Stephen F. Duncan, professors in the School of Family Life, Brigham Young University.
By Alan on Feb 23 in Blog tagged arthritis, asthma, autism, cancer, cholesterol, circulation, cure, death, depression, diabetes, fibromyalgia, headaches, kindness, lupus, multiple sclerosis, muscular dystrophy, natural causes, obesitiy, osteroporosis, scleroderma, skin problems, thyroid, water | 3 Comments
Skeptical??? You should be, but prove it to yourself. Ask everyone with these problems how much water and salt they use. They are the key ingredients of the #1 and most profitable protocol in every hospital…..a saline IV which consists of a penny’s worth of salt water and sells for $525. So why are doctors taught to tell patients that salt is bad for you?
The truth about the aforementioned problems and a whole lot more are they are really all the same problem because when the salt and/or water deficiency which caused the problem is corrected, the problem will often disappear. If you don’t like doing things the no-cost way, then ask your doctor to give you two saline IV’s day for at least four days while drinking no caffeine or alcohol and see what happens. You might consider jumping in the ocean for an hour a day & see the great benefit you receive from being immersed in salt water.
For The Family
By Alan on Jan 24 in Blog tagged Alan and Suzanne osmond, anguage, clothing, crowd, crude, darkness, eternal. klight, Everybody is doing it, forever, goody goody, grooming, heavenly parents, kindness, lazy, manners, modesty, music, natural man, old fashioned, parent, sermon, sloppy. slang, standards, teenager, tendency, the way, Today, trend, yesterday | Comments Off
Trends come and trends go, but we seem to follow the “easy path” of “The Natural Man” which is ‘an enemy to God’. Styles of clothing, music, language, movies and modesty and attitudes also can change thus lowering one’s standards and raising the length of a young girl’s skirt. Temptation to teenagers seems like we as parents are a bit old fashioned ; that you are ‘not with it’ or you are too ‘goody goody ‘and need to be more like today!
Really? Being dedicated, educated with thankfulness, having manners and showing courtesies are often forgotten and not used as they should; along with poor grooming, uncleanliness, sloppiness, laziness, over eating, slang, swearing and just being crude and rude is The Way of the day. Well, That’s NOT True! God’s ways are not our ways. We are His children and are here on earth to become more like Him! That was ‘The Plan’ of Life. I was always taught that truth is ‘the same yesterday, today, and forever’!
What is reverence today? Reverence should be having modesty and in being extra cautious about how we deal with sacred things; the way we act and live our lives remembering whose heavenly children we really are. So many people are so casual and wear their pants down below the underwear line if they have any, with loosely fit and more revealing clothing or just the opposite and so tight that it looks like it their clothing was sprayed. Now, even those that go to church to worship go wearing their jeans and sports wear. Shouldn’t we be wearing what we called, “Sunday’s Best” where we dress up in our very best attire to attend church and where we are more reverent and soft spoken showing acts of humility and sacredness? Is there nothing sacred any more? It really is Reverence versus Irreverence. Our actions and attitudes show the Lord our God where our hearts are!
When a parent challenges a child, often the response is, “What’s the matter, don’t you trust me?” No, I don’t! I don’t even trust myself says the parent!
We parents who have had more experience and are ‘older and wiser’, who have seen the world and know of those things that are out there, must not miss the moments to teach our children and to remind them that we are all susceptible to weaknesses and temptations. Lets not fool ourselves. Jesus and His influence is ever present but so is Satan and his! Yes, bad thoughts can come to our minds but, just like a bird flying over our heads, you can’t stop it from flying there but you can sure stop it from making a nest on your head! Don’t watch pornography, X rated films and videos, violent video games, take drugs and over do prescriptions, curse and swear and take the Lord’s name in vain! We seem to have taken God out of our Nations Pledge of Allegiance and Prayer in our Schools but we sure never forget to use His NAME in VAIN when we express ourselves!
One can never be sure unless he or she makes a strong effort and puts up boundaries, walls, standards, and holds on to ‘the iron rod’, or, ‘the word of God’ and draws strong lines in the sands of life that one will NEVER CROSS! Personally, I know that when one is seeking for truth and light, that it will be in the light … as evil is found in places of darkness. It’s a truth! Scriptures are very clear about ‘THE WAY’ we live our lives and the choices that only we can make. That is to CHOOSE ‘THE WAY’ of EVERLASTING DARKNESS . . . OR . . .’THE WAY’ of ETERNAL LIFE! 2 Ne. 10: 23
“O be wise; what can I say more?” Jacob 6: 12“ (One of my favorite scriptures).
We parents need to set the example by showing our family and friends that we ourselves are living and keeping the same standards that we expect them to keep.
If each of us can really want to BECOME WHAT WE WANT TO BE . . . then we should BE WHAT WE WANT TO BECOME!
We CAN be A LIVING SERMON FOR GOOD . . . and then pretty soon,… EVERYBODY WILL BE DOING IT!
Let us raise the standard of our families and let others SEE … ‘THE WAY’ we live our lives. Someone is always watching! It is our Heavenly Parents From Up Above!
Alan and Suzanne Osmond
For The Family
We manifest our love for Heavenly Father by keeping His commandments and serving His children. Our expressions of love for others may include being kind to them, listening to them, mourning with them, comforting them, serving them, praying for them, sharing the gospel with them, and being their friend.
Our love for those around us increases when we remember that we are all children of God—that we are spirit brothers and sisters. The love that results from this realization has the power to transcend all boundaries of nation, creed, and color.
Excelling in kindness is truly the right step towards becoming of “One Heart.” If one person is hurt, then so are we all.
All that matters in life is that when humanity wins, then we all do. Acts of KINDNESS are the seeds that need to be planted in the hearts and minds of us all.
Charity is the pure love of Christ or “everlasting love”. It is the love that Christ has for the children of men and that the children of men should have for one another. It is the highest, noblest, and strongest kind of love and the most joyous to the soul (see 1 Nephi 11:23).
“Charity suffereth long, and is kind, and envieth not, and is not puffed up, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil, and rejoiceth not in iniquity but rejoiceth in the truth, beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things” (Moroni 7:45; 1 Corinthians 13:4-7).
Jesus Christ is the perfect example of charity. In His mortal ministry. He always “went about doing good,” teaching the gospel and showing tender compassion for the poor, afflicted, and distressed (see Matthew 4:23; Mark 6:6; Acts 10:38). His crowning expression of charity was His infinite Atonement. He said, “Greater love hath no man than this, that a man lay down his life for his friends” (John 15:13). This was the greatest act of long-suffering, kindness, and selflessness that we will ever know.
The Savior wants all people to receive His love and to share it with others. He declared to His disciples: “A new commandment I give unto you, That ye love one another; as I have loved you, that ye also love one another. By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another” (John 13:34-35). In relationships with family members and others, followers of Christ look to the Savior as their example and strive to love as He loves, with unfailing compassion, patience, and mercy.
During His ministry on the earth, Jesus Christ spent His time serving and helping others. True disciples of Jesus Christ do likewise. The Savior said, “By this shall all men know that ye are my disciples, if ye have love one to another” (John 13:35). He declared, “I am among you as he that serveth” (Luke 22:27).
“The World has a kindness deficiency” Mt Butts says. ”We need to quit blaming each other.”
$1,000.00 will be awarded monthly starting with schools in Utah. It will be up to the schools to decide how to use the funds. ”When you’re making a difference in other people’s lives, it’s like being in Disney World every day,” Mr. Butts said.
When Mr. Butts was in school. peers teased him about his then-red hair, about being born on April Fools Day and about his last name.
He does not want students to be teased like that any longer, he said. “I want to be the most unkind person on the planet. I want to be, on a scale from 1 to 100, a 98″, Mr. Butts said, expecting everyone else to register a 99 or 100 on the scale of future kindness.
Kindness is not the first thing Mr. Butts has felt strongly about and promoted.
For a dozen years, Mr. Butts has touted the “water cure” as the answer to people’s physical problems.
With the water cure, people are instructed to drink water daily in ounces that is half their weight in pounds, plus take 1/4 teaspoon of salt for every quart of water that you drink throughout the day. The practice is believed to cure people of a variety of ailments, including allergies, and may aid in weight loss.
For more information on kindness grants, contact Mr. Butts and the One Heart Foundation by writing to email@example.com