We all have our free agency and God holds us accountable for the way we use it in thought and deed. "Kindness, compassion, and love are powerful instruments in strengthening us to carry heavy burdens imposed without any fault of our own and to do what we know to be right."
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I Love Marriage

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I Love Marriage.

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A short essay on Linda, love and being a husband by Richard Eyre

I love mariage.  I love everything about marriage, even the disagreements and tough times.  I love having someone with whom I share everything and who knows everything about me, sometimes things I don’t even know myself.

I love partnership with my wife, full and total partnership where we literally try to share everything, even bank accounts, even our emails, even everything; and where there are no secrets, even little ones.

Neither of us is anything remotely close to perfect, and neither is our relationship, but I love the synergy of that and how all of my weaknesses seem to be made up and compensated for by Linda’s strength, and where, on our best days, our total is greater than the sum of its parts.

I love that we each have our own ways of doing things, very different ways that, again on our good days, complement each other and make possible things that neither of us could do on our own.

I have come to acknowledge and partially understand that Linda is, like all women, a complex organism and that if you try to change one little thing or one little part of her you might set off some kind of chain reaction that would alter the whole and end up changing the very things you love most about her.  Therefore, I tell her, in total honesty, that I would not change one little thing about her.  I have told her that so much, and explained the reasoning behind it, that I think she finally believes me.

I love the word “husband.”  It means stewardship, it means care, it means cherishing and taking care of.  But I think it also means partnership — the kind with complete respect and unbending commitment and fidelity.

I love that Linda’s role in our family is the most important one — that her instinctive and intuitive love of our children has guided their lives more than any other thing and that the title of “Mother” truly is the most important and influential and indispensable and irreplaceable role on this planet.

I love the fact that we share both the procreative power and the priesthood power — that neither can be fully or fruitfully used by one of us without the other.  I love that Elder M. Russell Ballard of the Quorum of the Twelve said in his recent conference talk that just as a woman cannot have a child without a man, so a man cannot fully and eternally use the priesthood without the woman.

I love the poetic quality of that statement — that both procreative power and priesthood power must be shared between a celestially married man and woman.

 I love that an individual man or an individual woman is not a perfectible entity, but that a man and woman together are.

I even love what Benjamin Franklin said — that a single man is like a half a pair of scissors.  And I love the gospel knowledge that tells us that every one of God’s children, whether on this earth or hereafter, will have the opportunity of everlasting marriage and oneness and family glory.

Oh, by the way, and in case you couldn’t tell, I love Linda.

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Note: Richard and Linda Eyre are New York Times No. 1 best-selling authors who lecture throughout the world on family-related topics.  Visit them anytime at www.EyresFreeBooks.com or at www.valuesparenting.com.

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If The World Only Knew What They Were Missing

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If The World Only Knew What They Were Missing

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Here we are living in ‘a great and dreadful day’ with higher learning and so many comforts of life.  We have access to so much information and can advance so fast in society.  Yet, there are still so many who struggle and suffer, especially for knowledge and truth about their origin and destiny.  One of the most important needs we have is the knowledge of  who we are, why we are here and where we came from; religion.

If people would just stop and think about life and see those that are truly happy, they will find it is because they have searched their hearts with prayer and in their minds with studying and reading good books, have found peace within knowing that God is there; realizing He has provided the way to return as His children with with an eternal plan where marriages and families can be together forever!  May I share?

Over the history of this world, there have been many religious leaders who felt inspired and caused many people to follow.  Each of us has the right to learn with the freedom and power to choose ’The Way’ we wish to live our lives and believe.  That’s why we came here.  They also become set and immoveable and will not hear or listen to many truths that have come forth.  If the world only knew what they were missing!

Here are 10 facts about 12 major religions.

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These pages summarise the main features of the 12 largest world religions, which together are followed by almost 80% of the world’s population. These beliefs are described without passing any judgment on their truth or otherwise. Not included here are so-called “tribal” and African religions (6%), spiritism, the Eastern religions Cao Dai and Juche (less than 1% in total) and non religious (16%). Source for numbers is www.adherents.com.

Baha’i, Buddhism, Christianity, Confucianism, Hinduism and Islam

Baha’i Buddhism Christianity Confucianism Hinduism Islam
Founder Baha’u'llah The Buddha Jesus (Yeshua) K’ung Fu-tzu (Confucius) Brahmins – the priestly class of the invading Aryans Muhammed
Place & time Middle East (Iraq, Iran, Turkey, Syria), 1860s CE Nepal, 500 BCE Palestine, 30 CE China 500 BCE India, about 1500 BCE Arabia, 620 CE
Local religion at the time Islam Hinduism Judaism & Roman polytheism - Evolved from more primitive beliefs Tribal polytheism
Written sources Writings of Baha’u'llah & others – principally Kitab-l-Aqdas Teachings of the Buddha written down much later & not treated as revelation Bible, especially the New Testament K’ung Fu-tzu’s writings Many writings, mainly the Vedas (1000 BCE) & Upanishads (500 BCE) Qur’an, written down by Muhammed
No. of adherents worldwide 2 million 376 million 2,100 million 400 million (combined with Taoism) 850 million 1,200 million
Nature of religion Monotheism with revealed teachings – fulfils Judaism, Christianity and Islam Dharmic. Way of life to achieve enlightenment Monotheism with revealed teachings – fulfils Judaism Taoic. Social & political ethics Dharmic. Devotional rituals & tradition to achieve release from cycle of rebirth. Monotheism with revealed beliefs – mixture of corporate & personal worship and ethics
Nature of God(s) Monotheistic, ethical Distant, unclear Monotheistic, ethical, personal - Pantheistic & impersonal – life force (Brahmin) and many gods/aspects Monotheistic, personal, ethical
How to please God(s) Ethical living Eightfold Path between extremes of asceticism & materialism Repentance & faith in Jesus - Devotion, good works, knowledge & yoga to reduce karma (caused by bad behaviour) & maya (illusion) Five Pillars – profession of faith, prayer/worshp, alms, fasting, pilgrimage to Mecca
Rewards & punishments Life is a preparation for the next life (does this mean everyone enters afterlife?) Life of acceptance & Nirvana Life with God in this world and the next (or not) Social harmony Cycle of rebirth until karma dissolved & released. Paradise for believers
Practices Prayer & meditation leading to action – little emphasis on ritual (no churches or priests). Informal meeting every 19 days + festivals Meditation, disciplined living to reduce suffering (recognising “impermanence, suffering & no-self”) Weekly meetings, sharing faith & serving others Respect for ancestors Temples as homes to deities & shrines,
priests & rituals, individual holy men
Five Pillars, Friday prayers at mosque, ritual washing and prayers
Distinctive ethics Rational behaviour, peace, equality, tolerance, justice Detachment, acceptance, meditation Love your neighbour, humility, peace, justice Cohesion of society. Living in harmony with environment Do right, acquire wealth, enjoy pleasure, achieve release Five Pillars, Jihad (holy struggle)

Jainism, Judaism, Parsees/Zoroastrianism, Shinto, Sikhism & Taoism

Jainism Judaism Zoroastrianism Shinto Sikhism Taoism
Founder Mahavira (“great hero”) Abraham & Moses Zarathustra (not sure if he was a real person) Evolved Guru Nanak Lao-Tzu (& Chuang Tzu)
Place & time India, 550 BCE Iraq, 2000 BCE Iran, date unclear,  1200 or 600 BCE? Japan, 0-1000 CE India, 1500 CE China 300-600 BCE
Local religion at the time Hinduism Polytheism Local - Hinduism & Islam Less refined version of same ideas
Written sources Scriptures, written 100 years after Mahavira The Law (Torah given by God) & the prophets. The Talmud Avesta (Zarathustra’s teachings, written centuries later) - Guru Granth Sahib (Nanak’s & other Gurus’ teachings, written down later) Writings of Lao-Tzu (Tao Te Ching) & Chuang Tzu
No. of adherents worldwide 3 million 14 million 2.6 million 4 million 23 million 400 million (combined with Confucianism)
Nature of religion Dharmic. Soul is imprisoned in matter – cycle of rebirth until achieve release, at length, by intense discipline. Monotheism with revealed beliefs – mixture of corporate & personal worship and ethics Monotheism but dualistic. Ethical, personal. Taoic. Shinto = “the way of the gods”.  Mixture of polytheistic mythology & practical living. Little dogma. Co-exists happily with Buddhism Dharmic. Practical religion about living in this world (not ascetic like some other eastern religions).  Cycle of rebirth. Taoic. Tao = “the way”. Mythical religion with strong ethical component, yin & yang. A way to live with little dogma.
Nature of God(s) Distant, unclear – close to atheism Monotheistic, personal, ethical Ahura Mazda (all powerful God)  is oposed by Angra Mainyu & supporteed by 7 created immortals. Spiritual force manifested in “Kami” (nature, many gods or spirits, or ancestors) Present everywhere in creation, unknowable, without form, beyond dogma, found in the heart. merciful. Spiritual force (there is some polytheism in popular Taoism)
How to please God(s) Ascetic life as a monk. Lay people can only hope to achieve being a monk in the next life Obey Law – sacrifices for forgiveness of sins Ethical living Worship at shrines Grace enables recognition of God’s word & hence ability to live ethically & devotionally and so earn salvation. -
Rewards & punishments Salvation = release from karma & cycle, then union with one’s true self Pleasing or displeasing God Life after death A peaceful pure life? Mystical union with God (on earth and in afterlife?) Personal peace?
Practices Fasting & extreme asceticism. Temples & images to assist meditation. Worship & sacrifices in temple (but not since temple destroyed in 70 CE) & meetings in Synagogues Ritual prayer & washings, fire ceremonies (fire is the symbol of God’s truth) Worship, prayer & offerings at shrines to various Kami Egalitarian, respect for other religions Meditation, exercise (tai chi & Kung fu), detachment, festivals
Distinctive ethics Do no harm (non violent & vegetarian), abstain from sex & worldly goods 10 Commandments, plus many detailed laws in Law and writings Education, devotion, righteousness, non-violence, cleanliness Purity & cleanliness Love your neighbour, humility, peace, justice Sensitivity, peacefulness,  live in harmony with nature.
For more information on the terms “monotheistic”, “darmic” and “taoic”, see the different types of religions.

With all of this confusion in the world and deciding what to believe, is there any wonder why there are so many religions today?  It is not God’s fault but man’s.

“For God is not the author of confusion, but of peace, as in all churches of the saints.”  
1 Corinthians 14:33

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At some point in each of our lives we will each ask these questions:

Who am I?
Why am I here?
Where am I going?

When God created this world, he gave Adam and Eve all of the knowledge they needed with answers to these questions.  He even walked and talked with them in the Garden of Eden.  Many of those truths have since been lost, distorted, and misinterpreted over time causing so many people in the world to have no religion at all; athiest.

Many precious parts were taken out of the Bible during the days of Constantine about 300-400 AD and are missing.  But are those truths lost?  No.

Jesus Christ gave his words to all that would hear.  And for that, He was Crucified.  But, after Jesus rose from the dead, He ascended into Heaven, which is Paradise; a holding place where we go after death until judgement day.  He also returned and visited several peoples  (or ‘sheep‘, He being the Shepherd) of various nations around the world and gave them His word and covenants, letting them know that He was also their Savior and Redeemer.  He commanded them to write His words as a record to come forth at such a time as this when He knew there would be much confusion.

Some records have come already come forth and several others will soon be coming forth.

Those records or books have and will reveal many of the ‘lost’ promising truths and covenants, and blessings for which many religions have no answers.

God Created all things spiritually BEFORE He created them physically.

the familyAnd I, God, created man in mine own image, in the image of mine Only Begotten created I him; male and female created I them.”  Moses 2:27

“… And every plant of the field before it was in the earth, and every herb of the field before it grew. For I, the Lord God, created all things, of which I have spoken, spiritually, before they were naturally upon the face of the earth. For I, the Lord God, had not caused it to rain upon the face of the earth. And I, the Lord God, had created all the children of men; and not yet a man to till the ground; for in heaven created I them; and there was not yet flesh upon the earth, neither in the water, neither in the air;”  Moses 3:5

“And I, the Lord God, formed man from the dust of the ground, and breathed into his nostrils the breath of life; and man became a living soul, the first flesh upon the earth, the first man also; nevertheless, all things were before created; but spiritually were they created and made according to my word.”  Moses 3:7

Many ‘Plain and precious truths and  doctrines’ of the gospel have been restored:

The Physical nature of the Godhead

Our creation is in God’s image

Apostles and Prophets

Melchizedek Priesthood

Aaronic Priesthood

Mode of baptism

The gift of the Holy Ghost

Premortal existence

Baptism for the dead

Resurrection

The three Kingdoms of Heaven
(Celestial, Telestial, Terresterial)

Eternal marriage and families

Our potential to become like our Heavenly Parents 

Subject Scriptures in the Bible Scriptures Given through Joseph Smith

Physical nature of
the Godhead

Matthew 3:16–17;John 4:24Acts 7:55

Joseph Smith—History 1:17D&C 130:1, 22

Our creation in
God’s image

Genesis 1:27

Moses 6:8–9

Apostles and prophets

Ephesians 2:204:11–16

D&C 107:23, 33, 35, 39, 58112:30–32

Melchizedek Priesthood

Hebrews 6:207:17

D&C 84:19–25;107:1–8, 18–19

Aaronic Priesthood

Hebrews 7:11

D&C 1384:18, 26–27, 30107:1, 13–14, 20

Mode of baptism

Matthew 3:16

3 Nephi 11:22–26;Moroni 8:8–12D&C 20:71–74

The gift of the
Holy Ghost

Acts 8:17

D&C 20:41, 4335:6;121:46

Premortal existence

Jeremiah 1:4–5

D&C 93:29Abraham 3:22–26

Baptism for the dead

1 Corinthians 15:29

D&C 128:16–18

Resurrection

Job 19:25–26John 5:28–29;1 Corinthians 15:22

Alma 11:42–45

The three kingdoms
of glory

1 Corinthians 15:40–42

D&C 76:50–112;131:1

Eternal marriage

Genesis 2:24;1 Corinthians 11:11

D&C 131:1–4132:19

Our potential
to become like Heavenly Father

Romans 8:17

D&C 88:107; 93:20;132:20–24


‘We are NOT human beings having Spiritual experiences.

We ARE Spiritual beings having human experiences.’

the familyIt is my testimony that God lives and that He created this world with its Creation, Fall and Atonement of Jesus Christ, and worlds without number along with God-given laws, ordinances and doctrines.  His plan makes it possible for all people to be exalted and live forever with God (2 Ne. 2:9), a glory of the celestial, which excels in all things – where God, even the Father, reigns upon his throne forever and ever.   D&C 76:92.   The scriptures also refer to this plan as the plan of salvation, the plan of happiness, and the plan of mercy.

We lived before as spirit children of God and battled in heaven over good and evil.  One third of those spirit children followed Satan and were cast out of heaven with Satan into everlasting darkness.  Those that won that war chose to come to this earth, to progress and become more like our Heavenly Parents by gaining a physical body and becoming creators of life ourselves.

We are here on earth to be tested as a ‘natural man’ (which is an enemy of God), to gain intelligence (which is the Glory of God), and to be tempted by Satan once again over good and evil and to make choices that will directly effect one’s future; and mansion in heaven  where one goes to live after we die, and are judged on condition of living forever in a resurrected state, not subject to physical death.  Every man’s work shall be made manifest: for the day shall declare it, because it shall be revealed by fire; and the fire shall try every man’s work of what sort it is.  1 Corinthians 3:13

This is life eternal, that they might know thee the only true God, and Jesus Christ, John 17:3 (D&C 132:24).  We must fight the good fight of faith and lay hold on eternal life. (1 Tim. 6:12)  People are free to choose liberty and eternal life, (2 Ne. 2:27) (Hel. 14:31).  To be spiritually minded is life eternal. (2 Ne. 9:39)  Then are ye in the narrow path that leads to eternal life.  (2 Ne. 31:17–20)  God gives eternal life to the obedient, (Moses 5:11).

To believe in Christ and endure to the end is life eternal, 2 Ne. 33:4 (3 Ne. 15:9).  He that hath eternal life is rich, D&C 6:7 (D&C 11:7).  Eternal life is the greatest of all the gifts of God, D&C 14:7 (Rom. 6:23).  The righteous will receive peace in this world, and eternal life in the world to come, D&C 59:23  Those who endure to the end shall have a crown of eternal life, D&C 66:12 (D&C 75:5).  If the marriage of a man and a woman has been sealed in the house of the Lord, they and their offspring will be together eternally as a family.

All who die without the gospel who would have received it had they lived are heirs of the celestial kingdom, D&C 137:7–9.  This is all a part of God’s eternal Plan of life for His children because “God’s work and glory is to bring to pass the immortality and eternal life of man, Moses 1:39; ’man’ refers to all mankind, both male and female. All men and women are the literal, spiritual offspring of a Heavenly Father. When they are born into mortality, they receive physical, mortal bodies. These bodies were created in God’s image (Gen. 1:26–27). Men and women who are faithful in receiving the necessary ordinances, keeping their covenants, and obeying God’s commands will enter into their exaltation and become as God.  And if thou art faithful unto the end thou shalt have a crown of immortality, and eternal life in the mansions which I have prepared in the house of my Father.  D&C 81:6.

Have you ever seen a baby chick that didn’t become a chicken?  A pony always becomes a horse?  We as children become like our parents.  ”Like Father like son; like Mother like daughter”.

I hope this has made you think about what you might be missing and that you will reach within for answers that are real. Again remember, ‘God is NOT the author of confusion’.  I invite you to pray with real intent that you may enter into the rest of the Lord.  The Spirit of Christ can be with you and enable you to know good from evil.  Satan persuades men to deny Christ and do evil.  The prophets manifest the coming of Christ with faith, miracles are wrought and angels will minister unto you.  All mankind shoud hope for eternal life and cleave unto charity always doing good.

This I know to be true,

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Note:  Many of these truths were restored through the Prophet Joseph Smith. (Watch Video)

“Joseph Smith has produced more scripture than even Moses and has been instrumental in bringing forth the word of the Lord in this dispensation.”

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Visit Olive Osmond Historic Cabin in Samaria, Idaho

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Olive Osmond Historic Cabin in Samaria, Idaho

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Samaria, Idaho — About six miles southwest of Malad, Idaho, a girl was born in a log cabin on May 4, 1925. Eighty-five years later, seven of Olive Davis Osmond’s nine children walked into the restored cabin. “This is so surreal,” Donny Osmond said. “You can feel her presence here”
The Osmonds were in town for the dedication of the “Olive May Davis Osmond Cabin and Museum.” The cabin sits on property donated by Samaria resident Luke Waldron, a local high school teacher and history buff. It is only about 200 feet away from its original location.

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Finding Balance for Busy Families

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Finding Balance for Busy Families

Kids have lots of options for activities these days, but an overscheduled child can go from busy to burned out in no time.
by Emily Graham

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It starts with the best of intentions. Your daughter excels at music, so you enroll her in piano lessons. The next year, she picks up the violin and joins the soccer team. She asks to join her friends in scouts, then wins a spot on the academic quiz team.

Family dinners become a thing of the past as you shuttle her from one activity to the next. Homework takes up the rest of the evening, leaving her little time to play or unwind. Mornings are frantic as she rushes to find homework, athletic gear, and sheet music before the school bus arrives.

You tell yourself it’s worth it to help her get into a good college. But no matter how much energy she has now, an overscheduled kid runs the risk of burnout by the time she’s ready for college.

“Sometimes we equate the number of activities with good parenting,” says Kathleen Kendall-Tackett, a University of New Hampshire psychologist who has authored books on parenting and home organization. “Colleges are looking for kids that are well-rounded, not manically overscheduled.”

The hectic pace is hard on parents, too. The pressure parents feel to maximize every opportunity for their children may leave moms and dads feeling inadequate and cause them to derive less satisfaction from parenting, the American Academy of Pediatrics has found.

By contrast, numerous studies have shown that families who eat dinner together report stronger relationships and better grades. According to a 2006 study by the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse at Columbia University, kids and teens who eat dinner with their families at least five times a week have a much lower risk of substance abuse.

Weighing the Options

If your family is overscheduled, you can ease some of the pressure by finding ways to simplify your daily routine, whether it’s cutting back on extracurricular activities or getting more organized at home.

First, think about your attitude toward your child’s involvement in activities. Do you feel pressured by your peers to meet a certain level of participation? Do you push your children because you don’t want them to miss out on opportunities you didn’t have, even if they aren’t interested? The AAP urges parents to evaluate which activities are appropriate based on a child’s needs, skills, and temperament and to preserve time for children to play and hang out with family members.

Parents should listen carefully to what their children want to do and let them follow their passions rather than of imposing other expectations, says Mimi Doe, author of Busy but Balanced: Practical and Inspirational Ways To Create a Calmer, Closer Family. “For some kids, this pressure to get involved is coming from their parents rather than their desire to try things out,” she says. “They just said they like the piano, and you’re picturing them at Carnegie Hall.”

Instead of thinking about getting an advantage for your children in the college admissions process, she advises parents to focus on creating a manageable family schedule. When considering each activity, think about the time, cost, and transportation involved as well as how it will affect you and your kids. Consider setting limits on the number of activities each child can participate in before the school year starts. Many families limit each child to three activities—one artistic, one athletic, and one social.

Doe encourages families to create more balanced lives based on their own values. If parents feel it’s important to eat dinner together a few nights a week, arrange the schedule to try to make it happen. It’s important for parents to set predictable times that they’re available to listen to their children, she adds, whether it’s taking a walk together after dinner or talking for a few minutes before the kids go to bed.

“It’s really critical that before the school year begins, families consciously craft the best schedule for them,” Doe says. “You want to be proactive, not reactive to what comes home in the backpack.”

The Simpler Life

As you cut down on outside activities, set aside dedicate time for the family to be together. Taking a few minutes to relax after getting home can lower everyone’s stress levels and help family members to reconnect after a busy day, Kendall-Tackett says: “A lot of times, people get home and immediately dive into meal preparation, and it tends to be one of the worst hours of the day.”

Streamlining household routines can also make time at home more relaxed, she continues. (See “The Morning Rush” below for ideas to make your morning easier.) You don’t have to reorganize your whole house or overhaul your whole life. Keep spaces that you use every day, like the kitchen counter or home office, free of clutter. Focus your efforts on cleaning the areas in your house where things tend to gather, such as at the bottom and top of staircases or on the dinner table. Keep things where you use them so you don’t have to search the house just to find a pair of scissors. If you have to spend time rummaging through drawers looking for frequently used items, clean out the junk.

Once you create a pocket of organization in your house, it’s likely to spread, Kendall-Tackett says. “The goal is not to be hyperorganized for the sake of it, but to make it easier.”

Even with the best of intentions, though, changing the family dynamic takes time. Don’t expect to meet every goal right off the bat, especially regarding home organization. Kendall-Tackett and Doe both urge parents to let go of the idea of being a perfect parent and resist feeling guilty if the house is less than immaculate.

“Give yourself permission to step off the fast track,” Doe says, “trusting you’re giving [your children] the best gift: being present in their lives without being exhausted.”

The Morning Rush

Your morning routine can have a huge effect on how you feel the rest of the day. Instead of getting out of bed earlier to do everything, family psychologist Kathleen Kendall-Tackett recommends trying the following tips to save time.

  1. After dinner, prep breakfast food and make lunches for the following day. Have your kids lay out their clothes before going to bed.

  2. Avoid last-minute surprises by asking your kids what items they will need for the following day’s activities. Have them gather everything together in the evening.

  3. Keep spare school supplies accessible and in a designated area.

  4. Set aside an area for each family member to place items they will take to work or school the next day. Have children check that they have everything the night before so they’re not looking for lost homework in the morning.

  5. Have healthy, self-serve food on hand for breakfast.

  6. Organize bathroom drawers and cabinets so you don’t have to search for the items you use every day.

Is Your Family Overscheduled?

Organized activities can help children gain skills and self-confidence, but too much structured activity can contribute to anxiety, stress, and depression in children and cause kids to become self-critical perfectionists, reports a 2006 study by the American Academy of Pediatrics.

“You don’t get to know each other because there’s not time to just really be,” says family psychologist Kathleen Kendall-Tackett. “You’re just interacting between activities.”

Ask yourself these questions to help determine whether your family is overscheduled:

  • Do your children enjoy their extracurricular activities? Do you enjoy them?

  • What does the activity accomplish?

  • Is it being done out of habit?

  • Do you feel like your kids need to be in activities because everyone else is, too?

  • Do your kids spend so much time in activities that you don’t know what else is going on in their lives?

Emily Graham is a senior editor for School Family Media. She lives with her family in Oklahoma.

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The Mormonizing Of America

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The Mormonizing Of America

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New York Times best selling author Stephen Mansfield

There are nearly seven million Mormons in America . This is the number the Mormons themselves use. It’s not huge. Seven million is barely 2 percent of the country’s population. It is the number of people who subscribe to Better Homes and Gardens magazine. London boasts seven million people. So does San Francisco . It’s a million more people than live in the state of Washington ; a million less than in the state of Virginia . It’s so few, it’s the same number as were watching the January 24, 2012, Republican debate.

In fact, worldwide, there are only about fourteen million Mormons. That’s fourteen million among a global population just reaching seven billion. Fourteen million is the population of Cairo or Mali or Guatemala . It’s approximately the number of people who tune in for the latest hit show on network television every week. Fourteen million Americans ate Thanksgiving dinner in a restaurant in 2011. That’s how few fourteen million is.

Yet in the first decade or so of the new millennium, some members of the American media discovered the Mormons and began covering them as though the Latter-day Saints had just landed from Mars. It was as though Utah was about to invade the rest of the country. It was all because of politics and pop culture, of course. Mitt Romney and John Huntsman were in pursuit of the White House. the familyGlenn Beck was among the nation’s most controversial news commentators. Stephenie Meyer had written the astonishingly popular Twilight series about vampires. Matt Stone and Trey Parker had created the edgy South Park cartoon series–which included a much- discussed episode about Mormons–and then went on to create the blatantly blasphemous and Saint-bashing Broadway play The Book of Mormon. It has become one of the most successful productions in American theater history.

Meanwhile, more than a dozen Mormons sat in the US Congress, among them Harry Reid, the Senate Majority Leader. Mormons led JetBlue, American Express, Marriott, Novell, Deloitte and Touche, Diebold, and Eastman Kodak. Management guru Stephen Covey made millions telling them how to lead even better. There were Mormons commanding battalions of US troops and Mormons running major US universities. There were so many famous Mormons, in fact, that huge websites were launched just to keep up with it all. Notables ranged from movie stars like Katherine Heigl to professional athletes to country music stars like Gary Allan to reality television contestants and even to serial killers like Glenn Helzer, whose attorney argued that the Saints made him the monster he was. The media graciously reminded the public that Mormon criminals were nothing new, though: Butch Cassidy of Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid fame was also a Mormon, they reported.tje family

Most media coverage treated this “Mormon Moment” as though it was just that: the surprising and unrelated appearance of dozens of Mormons on the national stage–for a moment. More than a few commentators predicted it would all pass quickly.

What most commentators did not understand was that their “Mormon Moment” was more than a moment, more than an accident, and more than a matter of pop culture and fame alone. The reality was–and is–that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has reached critical mass. It is not simply that a startling number of Mormons have found their way onto America’s flat-screen TVs and so brought visibility to their religion. It is that the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter- day Saints has reached sufficient numbers–and has so permeated every level of American society on the strength of its religious value–that prominent politicians, authors, athletes, actors, newscasters, and even murderers are the natural result, in some cases even the intended result. Visible, influential Mormons aren’t outliers or exceptions. They are fruit of the organic growth of their religion.

the familyIn 1950, there were just over a million Mormons in the world. Most of these were located in the Intermountain West of the United States, a region of almost lunar landscape between the Rocky Mountains to the East and the Cascades and Sierra Nevada Mountains to the West. The religion was still thought of as odd by most Americans. There had been famous Mormons like the occasional US Senator or war hero, but these were few and far between. There had even been a 1940 Hollywood movie entitled Brigham Young that told the story of the Saints’ mid-1800s trek from Illinois to the region of the Great Salt Lake. Its producers worked hard to strain out nearly every possible religious theme, a nod to the increasingly secular American public. Though it starred heavyweights like Vincent Price and Tyrone Power, the movie failed miserably, even in Utah. Especially in Utah.

the familyThen, in 1951, a man named David O. McKay became the “First President” of the Latter-day Saints and inaugurated a new era. He was the Colonel Harlan Sanders of Mormonism. He often wore white suits, had an infectious laugh, and under- stood the need to appeal to the world outside the Church. It was refreshing. Most LDS presidents had either been polygamist oddballs or stodgy old men in the eyes of the American public. McKay was more savvy, more media aware. He became so popular that film legend Cecil B. DeMille asked him to consult on the now classic movie The Ten Commandments.

Empowered by his personal popularity and by his sense that an opportune moment had come, McKay began refashioning the Church’s image. He also began sharpening its focus. His famous challenge to his followers was, “Every Member a Missionary!” And the faithful got busy. It only helped that Ezra Taft Benson, a future Church president, was serving as the nation’s secretary of agriculture under President Eisehower. This brought respectability. the familyIt also helped that George Romney was the revered CEO of American Motors Corporation and that he would go on to be the governor of Michigan, a candidate for president of the United States, and finally a member of Richard Nixon’s cabinet. This hinted at increasing power. The 1950s were good for Mormons.

the familyThen came the 1960s. Like most religions, the LDS took a beating from the counterculture movement, but by the 1970s they were again on the rise. There was the Mormon Tabernacle Choir, a symbol of Americana when Americana was under siege. There was Mormon Donny Osmond’s smile and Mormon Marie Osmond’s everything and the three-year run of network television’s Donny and Marie in the late 1970s that made words like family, clean, talented, patriotic, and even cute outshine some of the less-endearing labels laid upon the Saints through the years. New labels joined new symbols. the familyA massive, otherworldly, 160,000-square-foot Temple just north of Washington, DC, was dedicated in the 1970s, a symbol of LDS power and permanence for the nation to behold. Always there was the “Every Member a Missionary!” vision beating in each Saintly heart.

By 1984, the dynamics of LDS growth were so fine-tuned that influential sociologist Rodney Stark made the mind- blowing prediction that the Latter-day Saints would have no fewer than 64 million members and perhaps as many as 267 million by 2080.3 It must have seemed possible in those days. In the following ten years, LDS membership exploded from 4.4 million to 11 million. This may be why in 1998 the Southern Baptist Convention held its annual meeting in Salt Lake City. The Mormons–a misguided cult in the view of most traditional Christians, most Baptists in particular–had to be stopped.

the familyThey weren’t. Four years after the Baptists besieged Temple Square, the Winter Olympic Games came to Salt Lake City. This was in 2002 and it is hard to exaggerate what this meant to the Latter-day Saints. A gifted Mormon leader, Mitt Romney, rescued the games after a disastrous bidding scandal. A sparkling Mormon city hosted the games. Happy, handsome all-American Mormons attended each event, waving constantly to the cameras and appearing to be–in the word repeatedly used by the press at the time–”normal.”

the familyThe LDS Church capitalized on it all. It sent volunteers, missionaries, and publicists scurrying to every venue. It hosted grand events for the world press. It made sure that every visitor received a brochure offering an LDS guided tour of the city. Visitors from around the world read these words: “No other place in America has a story to tell like that of Salt Lake City–a sanctuary founded by religious refugees from within the United States’ own borders. And none can tell that story better than the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints.”

Largely unchallenged, the Mormon narrative prevailed.

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What followed was the decade of the new millennium we have already surveyed. Mormons seemed to be everywhere, seemed to be exceptional in nearly every arena, seemed to have moved beyond acceptance by American culture to domination of American culture. At least this was what some feared at the time.

But Mormons did not dominate the country. Far from it. Remember that they were not even 2 percent of the nation’s population as of 2012. True, they were visible and successful, well educated and well spoken, patriotic and ever willing to serve. Yet what they had achieved was not domination. It was not a conspiracy either, as some alleged. It was not anything approaching a takeover or even the hope for a takeover.

Few observers seemed to be able to explain how this new level of LDS prominence in American society came about. They reached for the usual answers trotted out to account for such occurrences: birth rates, Ronald Reagan’s deification of traditional values, the economic boom of the late twentieth century, a more liberal and broadminded society, even the dumbing down of America through television and failing schools. Each of these explanations was found wanting.

The Mormon Machine

The truth lay within Mormonism itself. What the Saints had achieved in the United States was what Mormonism, unfettered and well led, will nearly always produce. This was the real story behind the much-touted “Mormon Moment.” The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints had risen to unexpected heights in American society because the Mormon religion creates what can benevolently be called a Mormon Machine– a system of individual empowerment, family investment, local church (ward and stake level) leadership, priesthood government, prophetic enduement, Temple sacraments, and sacrificial financial endowment of the holy Mormon cause.

the familyPlant Mormonism in any country on earth and pretty much the same results will occur. If successful, it will produce deeply moral individuals who serve a religious vision centered upon achievement in this life. They will aggressively pursue the most advanced education possible, understand their lives in terms of overcoming obstacles, and eagerly serve the surrounding society. the familyThe family will be of supernatural importance to them, as will planning and investing for future generations. They will be devoted to community, store and save as a hedge against future hardship, and they will esteem work as a religious calling. They will submit to civil government and hope to take positions within it. They will have advantages in this. Their beliefs and their lives in all-encompassing community will condition them to thrive in administrative systems and hierarchies–a critical key to success in the modern world. Ever oriented to a corporate life and destiny, they will prize belonging and unity over individuality and conflict every time.

the familyThese hallmark values and behaviors–the habits that distinguish Mormons in the minds of millions of Americans– grow naturally from Mormon doctrine. They are also the values and behaviors of successful people. Observers who think of the religion as a cult–in the Jim Jones sense that a single, dynamic leader controls a larger body of devotees through fear, lies, and manipulation–usually fail to see this. Mormon doctrine is inviting, the community it produces enveloping and elevating, the lifestyle it encourages empowering in nearly every sense. Success, visibility, prosperity, and influence follow. This is the engine of the Mormon ascent. It is what has attracted so many millions, and it is the mechanism of the Latter-day Saints’ impact upon American society and the world.

the familyMormons make achievement through organizational management a religious virtue. It leads to prosperity, visibility, and power. the familyIt should come as no surprise, then, that an American can turn on the evening news after a day of work and find one report about two Mormon presidential candidates, another story about a Mormon The Familyfinalist on American Idol, an examination of the controversial views of a leading Mormon news commentator, a sports story about what a Mormon lineman does with his “Temple garments” in the NFL, and a celebration of how Mormons respond to crises like Katrina and the BP oil spill, all by a “Where Are They Now?” segment about Gladys Knight, minus the Pips, who has become–of course–a Mormon.

Mormons rise in this life because it is what their religion calls for. Achieving. Progressing. Learning. Forward, upward motion. This is the lifeblood of earthly Mormonism. Management, leadership, and organizing are the essential skills of the faith. It is no wonder that Mormons have grown so rapidly and reached such stellar heights in American culture. And there is much more to come.

Monson

President Thomas S. Monson
Prophet, Seer, and Revelator
The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints

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THE MORMONIZING OF AMERICA by Stephen Mansfield, © 2012. Published by Worthy Publishing, a division of Worthy Media, Inc., Brentwood, TN. 11/06/2012

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The Family – What Manner Ought We Be?

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The Family – What Manner Ought We Be?

We are trying to preserve the traditional family—father, mother, and children—working together in love toward a common goal. In large measure we are succeeding against great odds.  

You are familiar with the fruits of broken homes.  ”I think the home is the answer to most of our basic social problems, and if we take care of things there, other things will take care of themselves.”   David Popenoe

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We believe that society has a stake in marriage in that the physical, emotional, spiritual, and economic health of its citizens is determined by the quality and duration of marital relationships. We believe that procreation powers are sacred and are to be used only between a man and a woman legally and lawfully married. When they are used outside of marriage they may destroy relationships rather than build them.

In contrast, many people in the world treat marriage as merely an association by consenting adults. The association may or may not be based on a contract. Sexual relationships outside the association are widely seen as acceptable. Open marriages without a contract are more and more prevalent as young people live together on a trial basis. Some people are now asking that an association between partners of the same sex be recognized as marriage. It is clear that marriage is not considered a sacred relationship in many quarters. In fact, some argue that the state or society has no interest or stake in marriage.

What are the world’s views with regard to the family? the familyThere are many who assume that there is no plan because there is no God. Life is an accident. Marriage and the family are temporal associations. The association between consenting adults has as its purpose pleasure and individual satisfaction. If the association no longer serves that purpose, it should end regardless of the impact on one’s partner or children. Is it any wonder that marriages do not last given these views? More than half of all civil marriages in the United States end in divorce. Based on these philosophies, it is not difficult to propagate an argument recently heard in a Hawaiian court that children can be nurtured as well by two adults of the same sex as by the natural father and mother.  Also, if marriage is a temporary association that may end at any time, it is then simple to extrapolate that governments should assume primary responsibility for children’s training and education.

We believe that society has a stake in marriage in that the physical, emotional, spiritual, and economic health of its citizens is determined by the quality and duration of marital relationships. We believe that procreation powers are sacred and are to be used only between a man and a woman legally and lawfully married. When they are used outside of marriage they may destroy relationships rather than build them.

In contrast, many people in the world treat marriage as merely an association by consenting adults.  The association may or may not be based on a contract. Sexual relationships outside the association are widely seen as acceptable. Open marriages without a contract are more and more prevalent as young people live together on a trial basis. Some people are now asking that an association between partners of the same sex be recognized as marriage. It is clear that marriage is not considered a sacred relationship in many quarters. In fact, some argue that the state or society has no interest or stake in marriage.

MarriageA key purpose of God’s plan is the formation of eternal families. It is within the family that exaltation is achieved.  The family and its eternal nature are important. I am aware that some individuals do not have the opportunity to marry in mortality. For those who remain single on earth, there is still much that can be done to develop one’s talents, to help others, and to prepare for the blessings that will come. For the promise is that no blessing will be withheld eternally if a person is worthy (see Clyde J. Williams, ed., The Teachings of Harold B. Lee [Salt Lake City: Bookcraft, 1996], p. 256).

When a man understands how glorious a woman is, he treats her differently. When a woman understands that a man has the seeds of divinity within him, she honors him not only for who he is but for what he may become. An understanding of the divine nature allows each person to have respect for the other. The eternal view engenders a desire in men and women to learn from and share with each other.

Men and women are created as complements. They complete one another. Paul told the Corinthians: “Nevertheless neither is the man without the woman, neither the woman without the man, in the Lord” (1 Corinthians 11:11). Men and women complement each other not only physically, but also emotionally and spiritually. The apostle Paul taught that “the unbelieving husband is sanctified by the wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified by the husband” and through them both the children are made holy (1 Corinthians 7:14). Men and women have different strengths and weaknesses, and marriage is a synergistic relationship in which spiritual growth is enhanced because of the differences.

The commandment that God gave to Adam and Eve to “multiply, and replenish the earth” remains in force (Genesis 1:28, Moses 2:28). Father and mother are important role models in nurturing and developing children. We believe that children’s self-respect and identity are partially determined by the love their father and mother have for each other.  “A father can do no greater thing for his children than to let them feel that he loves their mother”, said President David O. McKay.  My experience suggests that a child’s identity and feelings of security are threatened when parents argue and condemn one another. The home is the best place for children to experience the bonds of love and learn virtue, honesty, and good citizenship. The home is the primary place where children learn to treat others with respect.

Marriage is a sacred relationship. When performed in the right place by the right authority, an everlasting covenant is established between the man, the woman, and the Lord (see D&C 132:15–19). The covenant has the potential of creating an eternal unit.

the familyThe family is meant to be eternal. Each one of us may be part of an eternal family if we are obedient to gospel principles. A fullness of joy is found only within the framework of an exalted family. Some people may scoff at the seventh commandment, which requires chastity before marriage and fidelity afterward, but “political correctness” is not a substitute for the plan of happiness. Marriage is a sacred relationship between a man and a woman. May each of us live so that we may partake of the greatest blessing the Lord has in store for us, that of eternal life.  I ask these blessings on all of us in the name of Jesus Christ. Amen.

Merrill J. Bateman

Merrill J. Bateman was the president of Brigham Young University when this devotional address was given on 6 January 1998.

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No Guns For Jews

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No Guns For Jews

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“Wherefore every man did cleave unto that which was his own,
with his hands, and would not borrow neither would he lend;
and every man kept the hilt of his sword in his right hand,
in the defence of his property and his own life
and of his wives and children.”  Ether 14:2

“And behold, I have sent a proclamation throughout this part of the land;
and behold, they are flocking to us daily, to their arms,
in the defence of their country and their freedom,
and to avenge our wrongs.”  Alma 61:6

“O be wise; what can I say more?”
Jacob 6:12

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Life Is Made Up Of Great Memories

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Life Is Made Up Of Great Memories

Here is one that the Osmond family shared
with Andy Williams and his family.

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“The family that plays together stays together.”

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